I’ve been lurking on my Facebook (not feeling too social) this past week and found a lot of posts about being strong and how crying makes one weak. Crying is a natural bodily function. Crying is cleansing; not only does it rid your eyes of harmful debris, but it can also cleanse the soul. It’s not a girl thing nor a boy thing, but it seems like we as humans are intent on making those who weep openly feel less than the human they are, and that’s incredibly rude. When did crying become unexceptable? Why do we see men who cry as weak, or women who cry as beneath us and ‘just another over-emotional female’? Go ahead and cry. Find that person who’ll be there for you to lean on and cry until you’ve let it all out. Release yourself from that depressing burden; that horrid work day, your mother-in-law constantly reminding you how unworthy you are, that feeling of being surrounded by ‘friends’ only to find out they were enemies all along, the inability to find a job, the feeling of loneliness as you watch happy couples… Whatever it may be, don’t feel embarrassed about needing to cry. A good movie, a good book, a hot cup of coffee or hot chocolate or tea, a nice warm blanket, a trusted confidant if you have one, and let out all that frustration. All the anger and hurt and confusion and weight on your shoulders; let it fall away. Anyone who tries to make you feel inferior, weak, embarrassed, stupid, unworthy, etc, is not meant to be in your life. You need to find a place to begin healing and the attitudes they bring will only hinder you. Losing a friend is never easy, and I won’t lie, you’re going to lose a lot when you decide to do better. Once you find that person who refuses to let you fall, keep them around. It will get hard on them, so if they seem tired, please understand, but let them know, at all times, how much it means to you. Who knows, maybe they need a shoulder to cry on, as well, but are keeping it to themselves to make sure you always have someone on whom to rely.
Being strong doesn’t mean you never cry. Being strong means crying when you have to, releasing those burdens, and blazing a path for those who are where you used to be to follow you to a better place. It won’t be easy, but I know we can get there together, eventually.